The Diary of a Kinky Girl

This is a true story. The story of one girl’s journey from innocent amateur to professional dominatrix. In a complex and secretive industry I received no training, never worked for any
establishment or ever answered to anyone. I used my own initiative and my own ideas, made my own mistakes and learnt my own lessons.

During the course of the book only the names of my clients as well as certain details regarding their looks and lives have been changed, to protect their privacy. Their desires, deviations and demands however have neither been altered nor edited.

The bulk of the book looks at my first year as an emerging dominatrix and reveals detailed encounters with my diverse bank of “deviants”: Some good, some bad, some sweet, some naughty. Some very, very, naughty. Other chapters are devoted to my “alter ego” as a charming dinner and event companion.

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The Diary of a Kinky Girl (excerpt)

My first social client, Tony, sent me a picture of himself and his car. Or at least that’s what it said on the email. I had to look really closely to see Tony as the car seemed to be the star of the show, taking up most of the photograph. He picked me up near Oxford Circus in his huge 4×4 and when I looked at him I could see why he preferred to advertise the car rather than himself. In his fifties he obviously hadn’t visited the garage very often for regular servicing. His bodywork had gone to pot and I suspect the engine department had seen better days. I settled back in my seat and waited to see what would evolve. Tony took me to a nearby Turkish restaurant for lunch and, once seated, he discreetly reached under the table and handed me a £ 50 banknote folded into a little square.

“Unfold that and put it in your handbag,” he said, “I don’t want you to lose it.”

I did as he said and then enthusiastically opened the menu feeling ravenous and ready to plough my way through the extensive mezze. Before my eyes could even cast a shadow over the dishes on offer Tony snatched the menu from me.

“Chicken or lamb?” he said dispassionately.

Tony obviously saw lunch as refuelling rather than a gastronomic experience.

“Chicken,” I said, “actually I’m quite fond of the…”

“Two chicken kebabs!” Tony shouted across the restaurant to a distant waiter.

I reminded myself that Tony had paid for two hours of my company and so I started a conversation.

“Isn’t it worrying,” I said, picking a topical subject, “how the Far Right is doing so well in the French primary elections.”

Tony began to nod, “Did you notice that I held the door open for you when we came in?” he said with puerile pride.

I tried to keep the intellectual needle above empty, “I wonder if it’s a tactical vote to worry the government.”

“You are with a man today,” said Tony adjusting his belly over his belt, “not a boy.”

I gave up on politics and let Tony talk about his favourite subject, himself.

“I ran my own company,” he said, “but decided to retire when my doctor diagnosed me with cancer.”

“I’m sorry to hear that,” I said sympathetically, “What type of cancer was…”

Tony carried on talking, “I have just ended a long relationship with a young girl, probably the same age as you. She desperately wanted to marry me,” he said, “but I couldn’t tie myself down with that kind of commitment. She has since become engaged to someone else and I find myself back on the dating market.”

As the waiter delivered two remarkably quick kebabs Tony looked up to make sure I had digested his last remark.

“I’m looking for someone between twenty five and thirty years younger than myself, about your age in fact. Once you’ve dated younger girls you can’t go back to being with someone of your own age.” “Not that I’m that old,” he added quickly.

I nodded.

“You’ll probably be surprised to learn that I never allowed my girlfriend to move into my house,” said Tony. “I’m quite set in my ways and I don’t like things to be moved around or disturbed. What I did do though was pay her rent and her bills. I also bought her clothes and paid for holidays twice a year. Not to mention dinners of course.”

He looked up for a moment to make sure I had been listening attentively.

“I could do the same for you,” he said as he chomped on his chicken kebab.

The date had barely lasted 20 minutes and already Tony wanted to be some kind of Sugar Daddy to me.

“Look,” he whispered as he leant closer, “why don’t we spend the rest of the day kissing and cuddling at your place. Show me a little kindness and you’ll find I can be very generous.”

The shock of his suggestion clamped my mouth tightly shut. When I failed to proffer an answer he leaned in even closer and I could smell the mint and coriander the meat had been marinated in.

“The truth is,” he said, “the cancer has left me impotent so there would be no question of penetrative sex.”

I nearly choked on my chicken kebab.

“But we can still do all the rest,” he said quite seriously. “Because I might not live longer than a few months I want to have as much fun as possible.”

“I can understand that,” I said. Although if the ferocious way Tony devoured his food was any indication then I’m pretty sure he’d be around for a good few years yet.

“Tell you what,” he said wiping sauce from his lip with the back of one hand, “let’s go shopping.”


Adela T.

Adela T.
The author, Adela T., lived in London from 2007 to 2010 where she was collecting material for her book “The Diary of a Kinky Girl”. At the moment she is based in Prague.

She considers herself both a professional and a lifestyle dominatrix. She loves to travel
and spend time with her slaves.


Reviews

I enjoyed this book enormously. The writer is as witty as she is beautiful and it is a great pleasure to follow her journey from the humble beginnings to the seasoned dominatrix she is today. Much
recommended if you are as interested in femdom as I am.

m199555


This was the third book on this subject I have read and whereas the first two left me sighing with disappointment this one was a joy to read and wonderfully entertaining. The authors first forays into the world of BDSM are detailed in the most entertaining manner whilst also managing to engage the thought processes of the reader and challenge any preconceptions about the fetish scene and those involved in this complex world.

Whilst there are many amusing moments along the way the temptation to go for cheap laughs at the expense of Her clientele is avoided. As the author progresses along the journey from novice to experienced and skilled Domme the reader can.t help but root for Her and cheer Her along the way. The intelligence and humour of the author shine through and ensure that this warmhearted book is a relaxing read and jolly good fun whilst also being insightful and educational. The illustrations included are a wonderful bonus.

All in all this book is a real gem and a pleasure for the reader from start to finish. I look forward to a follow up!

Michael


I purchased this book today and couldn’t put it down until I had read it in its entirety – a real page turner! It is an interesting, well-written and, sometimes, amusing insight into the world of fetish and SM and the development of a domme from novice to one of the most prominent on the ‘scene’. All the more interesting because I have actually met the author, in passing, on the way to a session (or two) with her equally stunning sister.

The summing up in the final chapter hit me like a rock. It really made me think and reflect on my own experiences and how my behaviour and approach etc. must have impacted on ladies like the author that I have met. Another few pieces in the ‘jigsaw’ of my understanding of certain issues have been put in place; so, from my point of view, very cathartic indeed!

This really is worth reading and far better, in my opinion, than similar diaries published by a more, so called, well-known author. You know who I mean!

I would recommend this book to anyone – whether you attend sessions with ladies like the author, to see the other side of the coin or, to those who simply have an interest in reading about another side of life, you will be amazed, educated, amused and entertained.

I look forward to another diary!

Steven


While I have read similar books, this one comes across as honest and since I am in the same business both educational and entertaining

Miss Lisa


A very entertaining read, written in a fun way by a clearly intelligent author. I found it interesting to read about the steps taken to become a pro-Domme, as well as the descriptions of various sessions and encounters.

I can strongly recommend the book to anyone interested in the scene, or anyone who wants to learn more about human sexuality and various fetishes.


Jakob

The book gives you a look from the perspective of a dominant girl from her early experience (including some funny trial and error) to the refinement of more aware and professional skills.

There are a lot of amusing descriptions of kinky sessions with an heterogeneus selection of clients given with an intelligent and sensible touch.

This book also gives an inside into the psychology of the relation between a dominant woman and submissive man.
But if you read it really carefully you will discover much more…

Really absorbing, sometimes tender sometimes desperate.

Simone


An antidote to some of the poorly written Domme biographies available, the Diary was engaging and enjoyable to read throughout. Adela has clearly enjoyed a fascinating life thus far and the experiences she shares provide glimpses into the world of a determined, intelligent woman on a journey of (self-) discovery.

As another reviewer has said, it is in some ways an age-old story of ambitions beyond seemingly limited horizons, but it is one that deserves retelling from the perspective initially of a dinner companion and later a fledgling Mistress/Dominatrix finding her feet in the industry. Situations that would leave many speechless are recounted with good (often dry) humour and an openness to the nature of others and what makes them tick. Interactions with clients make for interesting reading, as well as quite what they get up to, but more so her feelings as she ventures further down the road from small town beginnings and family holidays to pro-Domme. There are cautionary tales as well, but these seem to expand rather than limit her horizons.

A very promising beginning to what I hope will be a continuing diary and I look forward to seeing what comes next as Adela’s life and career progress.

theoptimisticone


I enjoyed this book. The author tells her story with enthusiasm, insight and humour. The writing is refreshingly clear and simple. Adela T. takes time to describe some of the formative experiences, in her home town in The Czech Republic and on a family holiday in the south of France, which she feels influenced the career and life choices she subsequently made.

In a sense, Adela’s tale is a variant on the age-old story of a bright and ambitious young person, stifled by the limited horizons of her home environment, escaping to a more dynamic and exciting place, and making the most of her gifts and talents. Her story forms part of the bigger human story of recent EU enlargement, and the resulting mass movement of so many bright, resourceful and energetic young people to the countries that astutely opened their doors and seemed to offer them the best opportunities.

But it is the sexual interest and not the sociological perspective that will draw most readers to this book. The author is generous with anecdotes and observations regarding the many clients she encountered in her early years both as a professional dominatrix and dinner companion. In most of the early domination assignations she has no idea as to exactly what fetish or fantasy the client will wish to experience until she is face to face with him. Her ability to improvise and think on her feet prove essential.

Adela’s first client wants to be kicked repeatedly in a tender part of his anatomy, a service of which she has no prior experience. Her first efforts are appreciatively received, but the client politely requests that she kick harder. Adela obliges: “My next kick would have converted a try from the touch-line on a windy day at Twickenham”. His one hour up, the client leaves “with a smile on his face, but a slight limp. “The book is often funny, and I laughed aloud at several of the anecdotes. The author’s dry sardonic wit and acceptance of the diversity of human sexuality is well pitched to bring out the humour in situations that others might find disgusting or distressing. Although the author sets up her business primarily to make a living, she is attracted by the innate edginess, enjoys much of the work, and obtains fulfilment and satisfaction from many of her professional encounters and relationships.

There is a summing up and an epilogue at the end of the book, in which the author summarises her general views on the men who form her prospective clientele, and her own motivations. In keeping with the rest of the book, the tone is uncomplicated and down to earth. One can agree or disagree with her conclusions, but they are clearly and honestly expressed.

Although this book only covers the first couple of years of the author’s professional career as a dominatrix, it seemed to me to fit worthily into the tradition of ‘An English Madam’, a biography of Cynthia Payne, which was in the 1980s the inspiration for the film ‘Personal Services’, starring Julie Walters.

Quiet Night In


Diary of a kinky girl is a book about the rise of Mistress Arella into one of the most sought after pro dominatrices in the world. It starts with the history of a young M Arella in and her introduction into the femdom world. The book then takes us with her on her journey into to being a professional dominatrix in London. It also contains several stories of her adventures as dinner companion and if you don’t know what that it, you should buy the book and find out it will be a blast.

Being a submissive fetishist myself, I enjoyed the dominatrix part of the book the best, but the dinner dates companions pieces were good too. Mistress Arella sure has met all kinds off men on her dates to say the least.If any of this interest you, buy the book! You will not be sorry. Several parts had me laughing so hard , while others will tug at your heartstrings and make you mad at men as a gender on how some of us mistreat women.Highly recommended 5/5

Slave T


What a delightful surprise it was to finally read a book by a Domme that is finally well written, thoughtful, and didn’t bore me to death as a lot of such books tend to do!

The book contains more than just a record of Her early and ongoing career as a professional Dominatrix (and a classy escort?), as it includes Her own thoughts and reflections on the sessions with subs and slaves, their motives to be there, and the depth of the bdsm and power exchange life. In that topic, it’s amazing to think and speculate about the hidden deep roots of why a man would seek a Dominatrix to literally act as his superior, sometimes beating him, humiliate him, and use him for Her pleasure. I couldn’t put it down till I read it all. It was simple, eleganytly written, and funny at times. it was erotic at other times.

A very good read and cannot wait for more from Mistress Arella!

H Y


This book really caught my attention. The word ‘page-turner’ comes to mind, although I conveniently read it on my iPad with the kindle software. I have to admit that I couldn’t stop reading, so I even read a couple of chapters at work, hope nobody noticed 😉

The book describes a lot of different encounters the aspiring young mistress has. There were some really funny ones too, I have to say, I can’t remember laughing out loud while reading a book, like I did with this book. I really didn’t expect it to be so funny!

She takes you on her journey from the first small steps into professional domination towards the lifestyle dominant woman she turned out to be. What I particularly liked was the fact that between all the stories you get to know the author a bit. Never judgemental and very intelligent.

Whether you are interested in some nice bedtime stories or just curious about the BDSM lifestyle, i would highly recommend to read it.

It seems she really enjoys the dominant lifestyle she lives. I really hope that Adela T. will have some more interesting encounters and adventures, because I’m really looking forward to the next part.

ninja



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